- Friendship is an unselfish concern for the
good of another.
- Friendship is your relationship with
someone you like.
- "A friend is someone who knows you as you
are, understands where you have been, accepts who you've become,
and still, gently invites you to grow."
Children who are good
- Accept others for who they
- Share their belongings
- Enjoy others' company
- Support others in need
- Smile, laugh, and tell
- Avoid teasing and put-downs
- Encourage others with kind
- Avoid tattling
- Ask for help from their
- Solve problems peacefully
- Consider others' feelings before
- Look for the good in people and expect to
- Friendship is the best present you can
- Love without friendship is like a shadow
without sun. (Japanese proverb)
12 ways to start and strengthen
- Be a person of good
- Be kind and caring.
- Be loving and supportive.
- Be a good listener.
- Spend time together and share
- Recognize when you have problems with
- Be willing to compromise.
- Talk about your feelings.
- Don't play the blame game.
- Try not to judge others.
- Expand your circle of
- Be friendly.
Fun ways to strengthen
- Make popcorn balls (or other treats) and
bring them to someone new in your school.
- Have a water balloon toss
- Bring old baby pictures to class and share
- Fly kites.
- Start a club.
- Read a play together. Assign different
parts to different friends (or ask which parts they'd like to
- Have a "read-a-thon" or "music-a-thon" and
share your favorite books and music.
- Volunteer together for a worthwhile
Other pointers to make
- Friendliness starts with a simple "hello"
so practice different greetings like "hi" or "how's it
- Reach out to others. Join groups,
organizations, and clubs. Get a pen pal. Call someone on the
- Include others. Look for people who are
left out of activities and groups and invite them to join
- Make eye contact to show sincerity and
interest in others.
- Learn and remember names. When you meet
someone new, repeat their name.
- Don't focus on yourself; think of the
person you are with.
- Smile to show you enjoy a person's
- Write a surprise letter to someone you care
about and tell how much he or she means to you.
- Read about famous people of the past to
learn what kinds of relationships they had with
- Visit a local store that sells greeting
cards and see what they say to bond friendships.
- Decide what's most important to you in a
friend. You might want to do a questionnaire and rank order
qualities you feel are the most to least important - family income
level, honesty, intelligence, education, interest, kindness,
ability to have fun, is law-abiding, loyalty, physical fitness,
political beliefs, popularity, cultural background, religious
beliefs, so on.
- With your class, debate the most important
character trait for a friend to have.
- Survey your class to find out how long
friendships last when friends are the same gender or opposite
genders, when friends are the same age or different ages, and so
- Role-play things you can do in a new school
to develop friendships.
- Switch seats in your classroom once a week
for 10 minutes so everyone can get better acquainted with each
- Create a photography bulletin board about
- Learn about relationships among animals
such as whales, bears, lions, dogs, and cats.
For grades K-3
Best Friends - Kellogg
Stellaluna - Cannon
Henry and Mudge - Rylant
Alexander and the Wind-Up Mouse - Lionni
Arthur's Birthday - Brown
Best Friends for Frances - Hoban
Corduroy - Freeman
The Doorbell Rang - Hutchins
Feelings - Aliki
Frog and Toad Are Friends - Lobel
George and Martha - Marshall
The Giving Tree - Silverstein
Ira Sleeps Over - Waber
The Legend of the Bluebonnet - dePaola
The Mountain That Loved a Bird - McLerran
Peter's Chair - Keats
How to Lose All Your Friends - Carlson
The Berenstain Bears Get in a Fight - Berenstain
Three Wishes - Clifton
Jamaica and Brianna - Havill
Fast Friends: A Tail and Tongue Tale - Horstman
Amber on the Mountain - Johnston
It's Mine - Leonni
The Velveteen Rabbit - Williams
Amigo - Baylor
Amos and Boris - Steig
Chester's Way - Henkes
A Friend for Dragon - Pilkey
A Friend Is Someone Who Likes You - Anglund
How I Found a Friend - Hale
Making Friends - Rogers
Together - Behrens
Koko's Kitten - Patterson
Snowden - Carlson
Frog and Toad Together - Lobel
New Friends, True Friends, Stuck-Like-Glue Friends -
The Woman Who Named Things - Rylant
Poppleton and Friends - Rylant
Friends - Heine
Ada's Pal - Lyon
55 Friends - Zabar
The Adventures of Sugar and June - Medoaris
19 Girls and Me - Pattison
Fluffy and Baron - Rankin
Owen and Mzee: The True Story of a Remarkable Friendship -
Pink and Say - Polacco
The Bridge to Terabithia - Paterson
The Value of Friendship: the Story of Jane Addams -
The Cay - Taylor
The Giving Tree - Silverstein
The Indian in the Cupboard - Reid Banks
Island of the Blue Dolphins - O'Dell
It's Like This, Cat - Neville
The Little House series - Wilder
The Sign of the Beaver - Speare
Soup on Ice - Peck
Anne of Green Gables - Montgomery
Belle Prater's Boy - White
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